Do you ever experience mild symptoms of a panic attack when updating your profile picture on Facebook?
After you hit send, your heart starts beating faster, palms slightly sweaty, mind racing with preconceived ideas of how it will be judged now that it’s out there for all to see?
I noticed this today when uploading a new photo, and I was really taken back by how one simple task could have such a massive impact on my emotions and sensations in the body.
And the reason it did wasn’t that of the task itself, selecting a photo and hitting the send button is not physically demanding, it’s the thought process behind it, that’s what always causes all the drama!
As soon as I hit send, unconsciously my body started reacting to my thoughts as they were mainly based on worry and fear.
What will my friends think, will they like it or hate it?
Am I not smiling enough, should I pick a different photo even though I like this one?
Is wearing black a depressing colour, should I upload a photo of me wearing a lighter top instead?
And off my thoughts go, rather than just enjoying the present moment, feeling calm and happy, my thoughts want to create all this stress and drama… that’s if I allow them to, this is a big difference!
Emotions you feel in the body are always an after effect of a thought that takes place in your mind. For example, if you think happy thoughts, you feel good. If you think negative thoughts, you feel bad. Simple psychology 101.
Having an awareness of your thoughts is what then helps you manage how you feel. Simply put, if you don’t get caught up in your thoughts, you won’t get caught up in your emotions.
As soon as I noticed my body reacting in a way that didn’t feel comfortable at all, I took a moment to become aware of my thoughts.
As I noticed my mind getting caught up with negative self-talk, I took a deep breath, allowed my body to relax and then smiled.
Smiling is my new favourite thing to do whenever I notice that I’m reacting to my negative mind. What it does is magic, it tricks the mind into thinking you are happy, which then helps the thought process to change.
As soon as I make myself smile, I then want to laugh. When I laugh at myself I realise how ridiculous my mind can get, especially when doing the simplest of tasks, like uploading a photo on Facebook.
When I smile, it brings me back to a feeling of love. Love for who I am.
My mind then thinks positive thoughts, ‘You look beautiful Camille’, ‘You are doing so well with everything at the moment, you should feel proud of yourself’, ‘Your friends will love you regardless of your FB photo because that’s what friends do’.
When my thoughts become kind, my body feels relaxed and at ease.
If you ever find your mind and heart racing due to anxiety and fear, try to smile.
It’s a simple, yet powerful tool to bring you back to a feeling of love.