As I approach 40, my mind this year has been struggling with a whole list of ‘shoulds’.

I should be married, I should have kids, I should own a house. And because I haven’t done any of these things ( yet ) I’ve had really emotional moments where I’ve felt like a complete and utter failure. #vulnerability.

Yet here’s the interesting thing, I’ve actually had a number of opportunities to be, have and own these ‘shoulds’ throughout my life yet my soul has said NO.

My soul, meaning the knowing within me that I can’t fight, my intuition, my gut feeling, my inner compass, my heart.

Maybe it hasn’t been the right guy or the right time, doesn’t really matter, because at the end of the day my life has gone down a particular path which I can honestly say is the one that feels right for me.

So if my soul hasn’t wanted any of these ‘shoulds’, then have I failed or am I actually winning?

Do we need to have certain ‘shoulds’ in order to be happy or can all the experiences ( both good and bad ) that unfold each day along our own paths be enough?

Sounds a lot like surrender, which is where we find peace.

As I write this I am incredibly grateful for every experience that has taken place right up until this moment. I wouldn’t change any of it as it’s helped me love, grow, learn, and made me who I am.

If your mind is struggling with a list of ‘shoulds’ and it’s getting you down, come back to what makes you happy. What does your soul year for? ( meditation is perfect for this, in the quiet, you’ll gain more peace and clarity ).

Trust your soul and don’t be afraid to live life on your terms. Do what feels right for you.